I’ve never been able to watch a show or skating competition. The reason? It stresses me to death. I always wonder how these skaters arrive to stay on these blades mounted on steel shoes and able to move on an ice surface with so much ease!
In addition, some dare to create complicated breathtaking figures (this is the part where I close my eyes). For example: turn on themselves as if they had no bones under the skin, jump in the air and bounce on skates, often without falling, mama mia …
And then, with my family, we decided to go skating. Yes, you understand me. I tell myself that if I try, maybe I will fight my phobia of ice skating.
Only … when I set foot in the ice skate ring (with my skate shoes on of course), I decided to create my own rules in skating:
Rule 1: skate as close as possible to the boards around the ring.
Rule 3: move slowly and never leave your eyes of your skates.
Rule 4: prohibit talented children to skate around learners. Seriously, how do they get to learn so fast … sigh …
And if it’s too hard, then I will stay behind the camera to capture and appreciate the incredible talent of my FANTASTIC FIVE skaters!
Is it a tradition for you to review the past year and make resolutions for the next one?
To tell the truth: for 4 years now, with my family, we decided to focus on the review of the past year. Resolutions are so hard to keep. Not necessarily because we do not want to, but because we simply don’t control so many of the events and situations that may or may not help their accomplishments.
A friend took the resolution to lose weight the following year and against all odds, she was expecting a baby, a source of extra Pounds!
A couple resolved to pay attention to their finances and start saving at the beginning of the new year, but then emergency: a health problem does not allow them to put a penny aside throughout the year.
A faithful person decided for the new year, to stop drinking alcohol and smoking. After two months, serious personal and family problems plunges him into a deep depression and he couldn’t hold his resolutions.
These examples sound depressing, aren’t they? Precisely, resolutions are certainly good but often they become a source of guilt, complex and self-pity when you can not keep them.
So, instead, I decided to focus on the review of the past year, positive or negative. This allows me to separate what my part is, what God expects from me, what I can change or improve or avoid. Then I set up principles which only I control, not the circumstances or people around me. Obviously, all this with the help of God!
Here are my 10 principles for 2014
- Stop saying or think negative things about my neighbor because I do not want anyone to do the same to me.
- Budget, select cheaper stores, wait for the sales, if possible, avoid credit cards … it isn’t the end of the world if I do not “shine” this year, as long as there’s life, there is the hope!
- Apologize and ask forgiveness from those I have hurt and forgive those who have hurt me. I may “get rid” of my enemies and not become their prisoner! So I avoid ulcers, depression and revenge!
- Accept me as I am (fat, thin, small, large …) and stop comparing myself to Celine Dion and ask around me (especially not my husband) if I gained weight or not. It prevents frustration, anxiety and phobia of the letters L, XL or XXL!
- Stop counting the number of “likes” on my pictures on Facebook or my blog or check who “likes” or doesn’t. If I like my picture enough to post it, that’s all that matters, right? Anxiety from social media is a waste of time.
- Resume and strengthen my relationships with friends, and members of my immediate, expanded and spiritual family, as much as it depends on me. I think that God has left us all on earth to be a blessing to one another. Life is too short and I hate regrets!
- Unconditionally love and help my neighbor in need. And as someone said: “no need posting a Facebook status about it!”
- Turn off my phone at the table. Children grow very quickly and soon I may not be at the center of their conversation!
- Cry when I’m happy or when I’m sad. BE AUTHENTIC, not what the world expects. No fear of being fragile. Pretending takes too much energy. Allow God to change me according to His standard!
- Be courageous. If I have convictions, I will speak up, act for and I will accept the consequences. “A bit of authenticity will make a better world!”
Well, I still have two days to extend my list …
Is believing when everyone doubt,
To hope when everybody else despairs,
Be in a good mood when everyone is boring and difficult.
It is smiling and be happy when everyone is grumpy,
To be happy with what left instead of crying what is lost,
Continue to show love in a hostile environment.
To comfort rather than self-pity,
Be a support instead of seeking a support,
See the beauty despite the poor and the ugly …
What is extraordinary to you?
Now, your turn to complete 😉